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My call to stop the comparison game

Summer is here, and along with it comes the social media flood of accomplishments: the Facebook posts about service trips; the Instagram posts showcasing the first day at an internship and tweets about all the amazing adventures occurring. As someone who is constantly surrounded by high achievers, it seems like every time I get comfortable with who I am and what I’ve done, someone shows me how they’ve worked harder, and as a result, I’m back at square one.

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The whole concept of comparison is one that I have grown very familiar with, and I know that I’m not the only one. Wanting to see how you stack up with peers is a natural feeling, but it comes at a severe cost. I’ve had conversations with my most accomplished friends about how they feel trapped in a place of inadequacy; hey, I’ve felt that way plenty of times myself. That’s right. It’s possible to get so caught up in checking what your neighbor is doing that you find yourself paralyzed towards making any type of movement yourself.

When your head starts to spiral in this direction, it’s important to be logical with yourself and remember that comparison is a losing game. No level of success will ever be enough. For me, getting into the business school at UNC was the pinnacle accomplishment. Once that happened, everything would fall into place and my life would be perfect. Come January of this year, I get in! And for about 24 hours, everything is amazing and I am untouchable, but it just took one conversation with an acquaintance who told me she was studying abroad to do medical research over the summer to go right back to zero. See the problem?

I had reached my biggest goal. Yet seeing someone else accomplish hers affected my entire outlook on my own. There is no logical reason why my friend taking advantage of an opportunity that doesn’t even have anything to do with me (I’m a business major…I have no prerogative to go do medical research anywhere) should have made me doubt myself. Not only did that experience make me feel bad about myself, but it didn’t allow me to be genuinely happy for my friend, who had worked as hard for that as I had Kenan-Flagler. It was lose-lose.

his summer, I’m challenging myself (and you) to drop the habit. Make comparison a thing of the past. It’s a nasty tendency that can steal your momentum and can cause resentment towards both yourself and those around you. This is how I plan to put comparison into perspective this summer, and I urge you to try some of these tactics and see what impact they have on your life:

1. Take a walk. Taking a walk is actually my solution to everything. Sometimes it takes just a shift in movement to see things clearly. I tried this last week, and it actually helped. When I saw a post on Instagram that instantly made me feel inadequate, I put down my phone, got up, walked downstairs and then went back to my room. Wasn’t any serious distance, but in the few minutes I took, everything seemed less dire.

2. Keep track of victories. When we’re comparing ourselves to others, we are often only considering our worst traits and their best. By taking time each day to write down victories, even the small ones, you are constantly reminding yourself of the forward steps you are taking, which can help you appreciate them more.

3. Make a to-do list. This is my favorite cheat way to feel accomplished. Make a to-do list of very tangible things. For example, take a shower, wash your hair, sweep the floor, call your mom. All things that need to be done, but none that you will be stuck on for an extended period of time. As you cross each one of, regardless of how minor the tasks might seem, you will feel a genuine sense of pride and productivity.

4. Celebrate the accomplishments of others. By being genuinely happy for those around you, you take your focus off of your so-called inadequacies. One of my closest friends landed her dream internship this summer. While that’s something that I could have become bitter about, instead I made her a congratulations gift and gave it to her before she started. She really appreciated it, and instead of feeling bad about myself, I really relished in her success and how happy I felt for her.

I’m not going to be unrealistic and assume with these four little changes, the comparison urges will completely cease to exist. But every single time the urge creeps up and I shut it down with one of these things, I’ll be sure to add that to my victories list.

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2016-12-07T10:21:54+00:00 July 13th, 2016|0 Comments

Lessons learned from successful women in business

Tuesday morning, professionals from all around Hampton Roads gathered at The Founders Inn to be inspired by the area’s prominent women leaders. Inside Business’ “When Women Lead: Insights and Experience From Women in Power,” allowed Angela Reddix, founder of ARDX and Envision Lead Grow, to share some of her biggest lessons.

“Often times people don’t want to share their failures,” said Reddix. “It’s so powerful to be transparent with your team, with your peers, with your mentees about where you dropped the ball.”

The panel, hosted by Cathy Lewis, featured women with diverse backgrounds. Reddix was joined by Micky Nye, President and CEO of Farm Fresh, Barbara Wolcott, Chairman and CEO of Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices Towne Realty, and Andrea Kilmer, President and CEO of The ESG Companies and United States Management.

Mistakes and failures were a topic that came up numerous times during the event.

“I think it’s important that we give the gift of our lessons learned,” Reddix said.

The importance of mentoring for women was also discussed by all of the panelists. Reddix shared the story of her first mentor at one of her earliest positions.

“At 22, I learned it’s important to understand the needs of leadership,” she said, explaining how she grew close to the woman who was her manager. “That was, I believe, one of the first times I realized the power women had to open doors for other women.”

This message is one that has stuck with Reddix over the years, as she now tries to show through example how women can balance a successful career and a happy family to her associates at ARDX, and is now expanding the mission of helping other women with Envision Lead Grow.

“Three words: envision, lead, grow,” Reddix said. “Those are basically the lessons I’ve learned over the years.”

When asked what advice she would give to her daughter, Reddix was able to explain these words and the value each holds.

“Envision: there is something inside of you,” she said, elaborating on the importance of chasing the dream that is genuinely and authentically yours.

“Lead: leadership starts from within,” Reddix said. “And Grow. Grow where you’re planted. Enjoy the space that you’re in while you’re in that space, because you’ll never be there again.”

2016-07-15T18:18:23+00:00 June 16th, 2016|0 Comments

Welcome to Envision Lead Grow!

We’re so happy to have you here.

Envision Lead Grow is a mission. It’s a movement. It’s a mantra.
 
Created in 2016, Envision Lead Grow is designed to support and encourage you on every stage of your journey, whether it’s middle school, motherhood, or marketing a business. The movement stems from Angela Reddix’s experiences as a successful entrepreneur and mother of three children. She knows what works, as well as what does not work, at every step of the process. She wants to share lessons learned with you.
Is this community for you?
Absolutely yes, if you have a passion and if you’re ready to turn that passion into a lifestyle. Sound like you? Then you’ve landed in the right place.
Aspiring Entrepreneurs:
Are you a 12-year-old girl who wants to start a tutoring business? How about a 19-year-old student who wants to start a textbook delivery service on her college’s campus? Maybe a 37-year-old woman who wants to create a shuttle service to take kids to and from their extracurriculars? You have all found a home here. Any woman who has a vision of creating something but doesn’t know where to start can use ELG as a springboard for ideas and strategies. Use our community to find like-minded individuals and use our guidance to get your idea off of the ground.
Women in a Mid-Career Rut:
If you’ve climbed pretty high up your career ladder and still don’t feel satisfied, perhaps that’s a sign it is time for you to step out on your own. Take all of your experience and knowledge that you’ve gained through your career and let ELG help you channel that into a venture you can be thrilled about.
Anyone Who Is Passionate About New Ventures: 
Maybe you aren’t the person generating the fresh ideas, but you are the person who can spot a good project from a mile away and want to be the first one to jump behind it. Everyone has a hand in entrepreneurship and in turn, the positive benefits it can have for the economy. We want you here, too, to motive, to steer, and to witness.

Our purpose is to create vision-driven ventures that will help you feel fulfillment and will help the economy grow. If you fall into one of these three groups, or some point in between, join us. Sign up so you can be the first to know when the workbook “8 Seeds to Success” is available for free download. We’re so glad you’re here!

 

2016-12-07T10:21:54+00:00 June 8th, 2016|2 Comments